Straight Talk by Nimfa L. Estrellado “Plus-sized women shouldn’t think of themselves as a size. They should think of themselves as wo...
Straight Talk
by Nimfa L. Estrellado
“Plus-sized women shouldn’t think of themselves as a size. They should think of themselves as women with rich goals in life. Size doesn’t mean, really, anything. You can carry your size with pride and dress in a way that you like,” said Donatella Versace, Vice President and Artistic Director, Versace Group.
I’m sure you’ve always heard about all types of women complaining about how they look. “Do these jeans make me look fat?” “Ugh, I’m so ugly with no make up!” and “I wish I was skinny!”
I’m so insecure. That used to be me.
Over the last 30 years of my life, I’ve learned to overcome my hatred for myself. I used to look in the mirror and be that skinny then fat girl who would cry because she wouldn’t fit in. Then I saw this quote that sincerely changed my outlook on life.
“Why try so hard to fit in when you were born to stand out?”
-Dr. Seuss
Good ol’ Dr. Seuss. Always knows how to make people think differently, regardless of your age.
I couldn’t believe how true this statement was. It made me realize that my whole life, I was constantly looking at all my flaws and what was preventing me from becoming one of the “populars.” I realized it was time to start looking at all the great qualities and talents that I posses, instead of what I lacked.
I work full time and still manage to fit being a college student, daughter, sister and friend in my busy life. Sometimes I work on sundays. I go to church. I’m a really good person. I’m beautiful.
The way I look at my life now compared to how I looked at my life even just 5 years ago is completely different. I don’t think I’m “ugly” anymore. I don’t ask people “do these jeans make me look fat?” I no longer look in the mirror and tell myself how much of a mess I am. Now I look in the mirror and tell myself “you are beautiful!” Why?
Because I’m confident in who I am!
To be 100% real with you..sometimes it really can be a struggle to gain weight, Because 1) I have a hard time finding clothes my size. When I do find the perfect shirt or pants, they’re twice as expensive as “regular” sized clothes. 2)Sometimes, I have a hard time keeping up with life’s demands…physically. Going to the gym sometimes feels like a form of punishment instead of a delight. I get out of breath easily and get really lazy, haha. I also really like food….seriously. I can eat.
Whether or not I have makeup on doesn’t matter to me anymore. I learned that yeah makeup can help compliment my features, but it’s not necessary for every single occasion. Ok, so maybe a little makeup is okay for every day use, but there’s no need to over-do it because then I’m taking away from what God created me to look like.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I know people need to lose the weight—not just for physical beauty but also for health reasons. Gaining weight can cause many health problems in life. I know that one day with support and hard work that I will reach my goal of weighing 150 lbs. But until then…I’m going to love myself and know that being plus sized isn’t a curse. It’s who I am—at least for the time being.
Sometimes in life, you have to make things happen. That you can change your life if you’re willing to let go of the old and actively look for the new. That even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there.
Be proud of who you are and not ashamed of how someone else sees you. I tell those people please don’t judge yourself poorly in comparison with others. Don’t magnify your difficulties and minimize opportunities. . We might suffer criticism but then don’t get emotionally paralyzed.
Believe in yourself, your dreams and eventually you will feel more confident, find yourself getting along with better people.
I’m sure you’ve always heard about all types of women complaining about how they look. “Do these jeans make me look fat?” “Ugh, I’m so ugly with no make up!” and “I wish I was skinny!”
I’m so insecure. That used to be me.
Over the last 30 years of my life, I’ve learned to overcome my hatred for myself. I used to look in the mirror and be that skinny then fat girl who would cry because she wouldn’t fit in. Then I saw this quote that sincerely changed my outlook on life.
“Why try so hard to fit in when you were born to stand out?”
-Dr. Seuss
Good ol’ Dr. Seuss. Always knows how to make people think differently, regardless of your age.
I couldn’t believe how true this statement was. It made me realize that my whole life, I was constantly looking at all my flaws and what was preventing me from becoming one of the “populars.” I realized it was time to start looking at all the great qualities and talents that I posses, instead of what I lacked.
I work full time and still manage to fit being a college student, daughter, sister and friend in my busy life. Sometimes I work on sundays. I go to church. I’m a really good person. I’m beautiful.
The way I look at my life now compared to how I looked at my life even just 5 years ago is completely different. I don’t think I’m “ugly” anymore. I don’t ask people “do these jeans make me look fat?” I no longer look in the mirror and tell myself how much of a mess I am. Now I look in the mirror and tell myself “you are beautiful!” Why?
Because I’m confident in who I am!
To be 100% real with you..sometimes it really can be a struggle to gain weight, Because 1) I have a hard time finding clothes my size. When I do find the perfect shirt or pants, they’re twice as expensive as “regular” sized clothes. 2)Sometimes, I have a hard time keeping up with life’s demands…physically. Going to the gym sometimes feels like a form of punishment instead of a delight. I get out of breath easily and get really lazy, haha. I also really like food….seriously. I can eat.
Whether or not I have makeup on doesn’t matter to me anymore. I learned that yeah makeup can help compliment my features, but it’s not necessary for every single occasion. Ok, so maybe a little makeup is okay for every day use, but there’s no need to over-do it because then I’m taking away from what God created me to look like.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I know people need to lose the weight—not just for physical beauty but also for health reasons. Gaining weight can cause many health problems in life. I know that one day with support and hard work that I will reach my goal of weighing 150 lbs. But until then…I’m going to love myself and know that being plus sized isn’t a curse. It’s who I am—at least for the time being.
Sometimes in life, you have to make things happen. That you can change your life if you’re willing to let go of the old and actively look for the new. That even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there.
Be proud of who you are and not ashamed of how someone else sees you. I tell those people please don’t judge yourself poorly in comparison with others. Don’t magnify your difficulties and minimize opportunities. . We might suffer criticism but then don’t get emotionally paralyzed.
Believe in yourself, your dreams and eventually you will feel more confident, find yourself getting along with better people.
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